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A woman with glasses bites her nails with a worried expression

You know that thing you've wanted for ages, but you keep putting off making it happen? What's that about, do you think?

You know the thing I mean (and there might be more than one thing.) It's the dream gathering dust in the back of your mind, because you've mostly given up on it.

It's the habit you want to break but can't seem to manage it. The book you want to write, but don't. The business you want to launch but won't. The relationship you want to quit, but haven't. 

Something is holding you back.

What is it? Why isn't it happening? What's the worst that could happen if it did?

You might not know the answer - and that's the point. At the moment, the information is locked away in the dark, in your subconscious mind.

Until now, you've probably been going around in circles, trying and failing. Or maybe you've given up on it completely. 

Well, I want something more for you! I want you to have the things you want.

You see, until you've come face-to-face with the real reason it's not happening - the one deep down in there - it's not going to change. 

Those hidden fears will rule your life until you bring them out into the light and deal with them.

A journal is really helpful for this exercise.

Write "What's the worst that could happen if I ___(insert desired outcome)?" and then write down whatever comes out. Let's actually go there.

Don't worry - you're not going to make it come true, just by saying it out loud - it's just useful information.

Maybe you come up with something like these:

  • You can't break your unhealthy habit, because you're afraid that life will be boring without it.

  • You won't write your book, because you're afraid that no one will buy it - or you'll be judged harshly by critics.

  • You don't launch your business because you're afraid that you'll flop.

  • You can't quit that relationship because you're afraid you won't be ok on your own.

Notice a theme?

Those hidden fears are usually something like being judged or humiliated, failing or being rejected. And underneath that, there's often another layer of even deeper fears, like losing everything. Or even dying.

Your fears aren't usually rational, but that doesn't matter - they're there, and they're keeping you from living your best life.

Ok good - you went there. Now what?

Now that you know what's holding you back, you can do something about it. Most of your fears disappear simply by being exposed - how fabulous!

And for those that need more - you can do some EFT tapping, get some healing, or do some meditation.

 You can enlist support from a coach, healer or mentor (cough cough).

You can reassure your logical mind with a solid escape plan, listen to a self-hypnosis recording, take a walk, or phone a friend who will lovingly laugh at you.

The point is, now you know. Knowledge is power. How you use it is up to you.

Whaddya think?

Big love,

Sophie x

P.S. In case it isn't obvious, I'm volunteering to be that coach, healer or mentor for you, if you're willing to get to work.

Book a free, 30-min session HERE and let the healing begin.


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