DO YOU NEED TO CHANGE?

Do you need to change?

I've been reminded lately, more than ever, that self-development work is not necessarily about changing things, but accepting them.

That doesn't mean giving up or becoming resigned. And it doesn't mean that things can't change - or that it's wrong to want things to change.

Instead, it means reaching for the most profound level of compassion and self-acceptance you can uncover.

Much of self-development work is actually self-rejection. Often, it's driven by a refusal to love and accept yourself for who you truly are - light and shadow, healthy and unhealthy. 

Too often, it comes from wanting to run away from those parts of ourselves that we find too uncomfortable to live with - the parts that have made mistakes, or got it 'wrong'. 

Psychologist Carl Rogers said, “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change."

It's a bit like saying 'you'll find the love of your life when you stop looking'. How do you do that?

How can you create the change you want, without rejecting who you are right now?

I think this is a real challenge for most of us - accepting the unacceptable about ourselves. Forgiving ourselves for the shit we've done, or not done. For all that we are, good bad and indifferent.

Loving ourselves anyway.

Not just loving ourselves, but liking ourselves, with genuine affection. That's the real work - and that's what allows gentle, compassionate and healthy change to take place.

What do you think?

Big love,

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