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Recently, I was in the process of hiding a key for the cleaner, when I caught myself thinking some very uncharitable thoughts about my neighbours and their potential for criminality. For the record, they are all utterly lovely - I'm very lucky. So I tutted, and said to myself: "I hate my brain." And then I remembered - I don't hate my brain at all. It's tiresome at times, but I know that every single part of my mind is doing its best to make me happy and keep me saf

Self-care is a funny old thing - it looks different for everyone, and depends on what your needs are in the moment. There isn't a one-size-fits-all way to care for yourself. Sometimes self-care is forcing your butt out of bed and getting out for a bit of exercise.  Sometimes it's forcing yourself back into bed, or just ensuring you've eaten today.

I'm not a fan of imperatives: 'you have to', or 'you must not ever', or 'you must always'. I'm not really talking about the laws of the land - generally speaking, I'm a law-abider (as long as you don't look at my speedometer, ahem).

At least 3 big myths confuse the crap out of people when they start working on their emotions.  These confusions and misunderstandings can totally derail your healing process, if left unchecked.

Do you need to change? I've been reminded lately, more than ever, that self-development work is not necessarily about changing things,...

Announcement: I'll be taking on weekly clients again from September onwards. If you're ready to get to work, I have a limited waiting list, and I invite you to join. 

If you're in overwhelm, this is your reminder to focus on one thing - because if you don't, you're likely to stay stuck where you are.

I'm a big fan of talking therapies - BUT - they can be limited. Here's why.

You know that dream you've been putting off? What's the worst that could happen if it came true?

Why do you react strongly to certain things and not others? Why are you having that emotional response?

Are you looking for that magic bullet that will fix *all* the things? The cure? You're not alone.

The healing journey is rarely linear - more often, it's a rollercoaster of ups and downs.

Why on earth SHOULD you feel your feelings, when they're so hard to take?

There is undoubtedly some scary shiz happening in the world, you can't ignore it - and nor should you try to.

Hi gorgeous, I had such a great conversation with one of my lovely clients today, on the nature of acceptance. I ask you - WHY on earth...

It is gorgeous to dream and plan your future - I encourage it. But hold your plans lightly.

What you resist persists - have you heard this saying? Do you know what it means? It's a quote from psychiatrist Carl Jung, and it means...

We generally learn life's lessons in two ways: the easy way and the hard way. Joy and pain. And it's true that most of the time we get to...

One of the biggest stumbling blocks I see with my clients is the attempt to control what cannot be controlled - and the distress caused...

What comes to mind when you think about self-care?  Is it: A) Something to practice when you're frazzled and approaching a burnout...