DON'T BE AFRAID OF YOUR THOUGHTS

Recently, I was in the process of hiding a key for the cleaner, when I caught myself thinking some very uncharitable thoughts about my neighbours and their potential for criminality.

For the record, they are all utterly lovely - I'm very lucky. So I tutted, and said to myself: "I hate my brain."

And then I remembered - I don't hate my brain at all. It's tiresome at times, but I know that every single part of my mind is doing its best to make me happy and keep me safe.

Those uncharitable thoughts are trying to make sure I don't get robbed - which would make me unhappy.

Every time I judge someone else, or I come up with a ludicrous worst-case scenario excuse for not doing something, it's simply my brain saying: "Woah, this looks risky, shut it down now."

Every mean, cowardly, or prejudiced little part of me is just doing its best with the information it has. Because each little part was formed at an earlier time in my life, when I didn't have the life wisdom and experience I do now.

And even though the rest of me matured, those little parts remained, at the age they were formed.

There are millions of them. Some can be super helpful - they boot me off the sofa if I've become a couch potato, or they sit me down, if I'm overdoing it.

But some - bless them - are really bloody unhelpful. Well-meaning, yes - but unhelpful.

They tell me - and you - to avoid doing things that feel uncomfortable, like first dates, dream job interviews, publicising your new book/song/painting/business offering.

They might even tell you not to make the thing in the first place.

But - and this is the important bit - they're just thoughts, they're not YOU. They are aspects of you, yes, but they do not define YOU.

How you respond to those thoughts - that's what makes you who you are in the world.

You are meant to have all these thoughts, you're designed that way, and it's important that you do.

And it's just as important that you sift and sort which thoughts to act on, and which to let pass on by.

Never be afraid of your thoughts - and certainly don't condemn yourself for having them. They're just little parts of your ego - necessary for your survival, and animal in nature.

Why not let the older, wiser parts of your brain lovingly take those younger parts in hand? Speak soothingly to them, if needed.

Let them know you're in charge, and everything will be ok.

You've got this (and you, and you, and you...).

Big love,

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