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"Today I will judge nothing that occurs" is a daily affirmation from A Course In Miracles. It encourages us to release the habit of judgement, and find peace of mind and acceptance. Oooh, it's a tricky one, that! We humans are judgy little things, and it's a hard habit to break. What that means is that we tend to judge everything  - events, ourselves, and others. And if we get stuck in that habit, we end up judging ourselves just as harshly - if not more so - than others. Muc

It takes a lot of courage to get on your healing path. Staying where you are is easier - even if it's not what you ultimately want. So when you start working on your issues, it can be extra bewildering to have an emotional setback. If this has happened to you, I want you to know it's not your fault - and here's why it's happening. We say 'healing isn't linear', but I don't think you really appreciate it, until you actually start doing the work. You probably feel pretty great

Believe it or not, the world is getting better year-on-year. We are healthier, we live longer, with far fewer of us living in poverty, and many more children surviving infancy.  Global metrics indicate a long-term trend of improvement across multiple areas; yet, many of us still struggle to shake the feeling that the world is on fire. Why is that? For one thing, we live in an age of 24-hour news. Crises are not just reported at 6 pm and 9 pm - they're reported constantly, acr

I was thinking recently about an extraordinary moment in a Jack Nicholson movie of the same name, where he walks into his psychiatrist's waiting room, turns to the waiting patients and says: "What if this is as good as it gets?" Their blank, stunned expressions are something I'll always remember. But WHAT a bloody good question. What if nothing gets better? What if there isn't some nebulous, happier life on its way, if only you can wait a few weeks/months/ years? What if you

I'm back from a little break, and here's what I learned - I'm not good at taking breaks :D Actually, this is not news to me; I've always known I was a bit of an all-or-nothing kind of gal. If I have the energy, I tend to DO more, and then get tired out, so I can't do anything . Does this resonate? I've been working on it, so the grey area is gradually becoming more comfortable. But before this, I'd either be go, go, go - or ground to a halt and stuck to the sofa. I didn't und

One of the reasons I love living where I do is that it's very flat - you get these huge, beautiful skies and incredible sunsets. Sometimes it feels so expansive, so uplifting, so light, that I wouldn't mind if it was summer all year round. And then I realise - nope, I wouldn't actually want that. The  biggest reason I love living here is all the green. I adore the lush, overgrown wildness of it - the coolness of the forests, the jungly wildflowers, the little winding paths,

Last week, we talked about the difference between guilt and shame (you can read that post HERE ). Guilt can be useful; shame is not. This week, I want to talk about the difference between blame and responsibility. Is it possible to take responsibility - without taking the blame? Many clients are reluctant to talk about the people who've upset them in the past. They don't want to blame anyone else for their issues, so they shy away from talking about the criticism they receive

Roll up, roll up! The podcast is live! Season 2 of Rowdy and Real is now available wherever you get your podcasts! Excitinnnngggg! Listen on Spotify Listen on Apple Podcasts Watch on YouTube RSS Feed I'm kicking off Season 2 by talking about why I had to take a year away - not just from the podcast, but from my business generally. It's a bit of a vulnerable share, and - spoiler alert/content warning - I'll be talking about my cancer diagnosis. It's still full of laughs and b

Guess what - you can achieve anything, as long as you never give up. (Cue audience cheers and roaring approval). Well, that sounds absolutely fucking exhausting, to be honest.

I had lots of lovely replies and well-wishes to my post about pain last week - thank you so much to those who wrote to me.  I wanted to...

Recently, I was in the process of hiding a key for the cleaner, when I caught myself thinking some very uncharitable thoughts about my neighbours and their potential for criminality. For the record, they are all utterly lovely - I'm very lucky. So I tutted, and said to myself: "I hate my brain." And then I remembered - I don't hate my brain at all. It's tiresome at times, but I know that every single part of my mind is doing its best to make me happy and keep me saf

Self-care is a funny old thing - it looks different for everyone, and depends on what your needs are in the moment. There isn't a one-size-fits-all way to care for yourself. Sometimes self-care is forcing your butt out of bed and getting out for a bit of exercise.  Sometimes it's forcing yourself back into bed, or just ensuring you've eaten today.

I'm not a fan of imperatives: 'you have to', or 'you must not ever', or 'you must always'. I'm not really talking about the laws of the land - generally speaking, I'm a law-abider (as long as you don't look at my speedometer, ahem).

At least 3 big myths confuse the crap out of people when they start working on their emotions.  These confusions and misunderstandings can totally derail your healing process, if left unchecked.

Do you need to change? I've been reminded lately, more than ever, that self-development work is not necessarily about changing things,...

Announcement: I'll be taking on weekly clients again from September onwards. If you're ready to get to work, I have a limited waiting list, and I invite you to join. 

If you're in overwhelm, this is your reminder to focus on one thing - because if you don't, you're likely to stay stuck where you are.

I'm a big fan of talking therapies - BUT - they can be limited. Here's why.

You know that dream you've been putting off? What's the worst that could happen if it came true?

Why do you react strongly to certain things and not others? Why are you having that emotional response?