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"Today I will judge nothing that occurs" is a daily affirmation from A Course In Miracles. It encourages us to release the habit of judgement, and find peace of mind and acceptance. Oooh, it's a tricky one, that! We humans are judgy little things, and it's a hard habit to break. What that means is that we tend to judge everything  - events, ourselves, and others. And if we get stuck in that habit, we end up judging ourselves just as harshly - if not more so - than others. Muc

It takes a lot of courage to get on your healing path. Staying where you are is easier - even if it's not what you ultimately want. So when you start working on your issues, it can be extra bewildering to have an emotional setback. If this has happened to you, I want you to know it's not your fault - and here's why it's happening. We say 'healing isn't linear', but I don't think you really appreciate it, until you actually start doing the work. You probably feel pretty great

I was thinking recently about an extraordinary moment in a Jack Nicholson movie of the same name, where he walks into his psychiatrist's waiting room, turns to the waiting patients and says: "What if this is as good as it gets?" Their blank, stunned expressions are something I'll always remember. But WHAT a bloody good question. What if nothing gets better? What if there isn't some nebulous, happier life on its way, if only you can wait a few weeks/months/ years? What if you

I'm back from a little break, and here's what I learned - I'm not good at taking breaks :D Actually, this is not news to me; I've always known I was a bit of an all-or-nothing kind of gal. If I have the energy, I tend to DO more, and then get tired out, so I can't do anything . Does this resonate? I've been working on it, so the grey area is gradually becoming more comfortable. But before this, I'd either be go, go, go - or ground to a halt and stuck to the sofa. I didn't und

One of the reasons I love living where I do is that it's very flat - you get these huge, beautiful skies and incredible sunsets. Sometimes it feels so expansive, so uplifting, so light, that I wouldn't mind if it was summer all year round. And then I realise - nope, I wouldn't actually want that. The  biggest reason I love living here is all the green. I adore the lush, overgrown wildness of it - the coolness of the forests, the jungly wildflowers, the little winding paths,

Last week, we talked about the difference between guilt and shame (you can read that post HERE ). Guilt can be useful; shame is not. This week, I want to talk about the difference between blame and responsibility. Is it possible to take responsibility - without taking the blame? Many clients are reluctant to talk about the people who've upset them in the past. They don't want to blame anyone else for their issues, so they shy away from talking about the criticism they receive

Roll up, roll up! The podcast is live! Season 2 of Rowdy and Real is now available wherever you get your podcasts! Excitinnnngggg! Listen on Spotify Listen on Apple Podcasts Watch on YouTube RSS Feed I'm kicking off Season 2 by talking about why I had to take a year away - not just from the podcast, but from my business generally. It's a bit of a vulnerable share, and - spoiler alert/content warning - I'll be talking about my cancer diagnosis. It's still full of laughs and b

I am not a domestic goddess. The opposite, in fact - I'm more of a domestic goblin. So today, when I was emptying my bin, and found...

Recently, I was in the process of hiding a key for the cleaner, when I caught myself thinking some very uncharitable thoughts about my neighbours and their potential for criminality. For the record, they are all utterly lovely - I'm very lucky. So I tutted, and said to myself: "I hate my brain." And then I remembered - I don't hate my brain at all. It's tiresome at times, but I know that every single part of my mind is doing its best to make me happy and keep me saf

I'm not a fan of imperatives: 'you have to', or 'you must not ever', or 'you must always'. I'm not really talking about the laws of the land - generally speaking, I'm a law-abider (as long as you don't look at my speedometer, ahem).

You know that dream you've been putting off? What's the worst that could happen if it came true?

Why do you react strongly to certain things and not others? Why are you having that emotional response?

Are you looking for that magic bullet that will fix *all* the things? The cure? You're not alone.

The healing journey is rarely linear - more often, it's a rollercoaster of ups and downs.

I hope the sun is shining for you - but if not, that's ok - you can love yourself anyway.

Your brain is doing its best - but it's not *totally* reliable.

Why on earth SHOULD you feel your feelings, when they're so hard to take?

Hi gorgeous, I had such a great conversation with one of my lovely clients today, on the nature of acceptance. I ask you - WHY on earth...

We generally learn life's lessons in two ways: the easy way and the hard way. Joy and pain. And it's true that most of the time we get to...

One of the biggest stumbling blocks I see with my clients is the attempt to control what cannot be controlled - and the distress caused...