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A woman in a forest smiles and turns her face to the sky

Here's a lesson I have to keep learning and re-learning - you have to feel good first, and then the good stuff arrives.

If you're anything like me, you keep getting it arse-about-face - you think you can't feel good, because you haven't got the thing (money/relationship/body/career) you want yet.

And why do you want those things? Because you believe it will make you feel good when you have it.

But while you're feeling bad about not having it, you're pushing it further and further away from you. You're rehearsing, over and over, the sensation of not having

You're literally saying to the Universe (and to your obedient mind) "Just to remind you, I don't have what I want."

So your mind (and the Universe) simply replies: "Ok, understood."

It's a paradox. 

Because how can you feel good when you're feeling bad ? When you haven't got what you want? And how can you get what you want if feeling bad repels it?

The answer? As always, it's gratitude, appreciation and love. It's finding things in your life right now that you can appreciate and feel grateful for, and milking that for all it's worth.

I write my gratitudes every morning and evening, but I would be the first to admit that it can sometimes get a little bit routine. A little blah. And that's no good.

The feeling is the juice - that's the rocket fuel that draws what you want irresistibly to you. And the feeling can be created from anything, anywhere and at any time.

You do not need your circumstances to change in order to be happy.

Think about it - haven't you ever let your mind wander to a hilarious joke someone told you, and laughed to yourself as if you'd just heard it again?

Haven't you ever remembered the first time you kissed someone and blushed like a teenager at the thought?

And I'm sure you've thought about how you're not good enough to have what you want - and how did you feel? Crap, right?

Nothing in your circumstances changed - all that changed was what you were thinking about - and that was enough to completely change how you feel.

And, not to state the obvious, but feeling bad is not an effective strategy to get what you want. Neither is hustle, self-criticism or pushing yourself to burnout.

As I was reminded in my morning meditation today:

"Abundance does not appear in one's life because of hard work, or good luck, or favouritism. Abundance is simply the Universe's response to consistent thoughts and feelings of abundance." - Abraham Hicks

It begins with you - you feeling good first, and the rest follows after that. 

Now - I know that's not the whole story. It's that simple, but I know it's not always that easy.

Sometimes it can be a challenge to feel good when you feel bad - it might even feel impossible. If that's the case for you, please remember this:

  • You can start from wherever you are, whatever level you consider yourself to be at - even if it's at the bottom.

  • Wherever you're at, you can always go up from there. There is always something to appreciate, and as soon as you start to look for it, you find more and more.

  • You deserve happiness - and if finding it on your own is proving too challenging, then let yourself be helped and supported! We can all use a cheerleader and guide.

That's what I'm here for :)

In gratitude for you, big love,

Sophie x

P.S. Gratitude is just one part of the puzzle - let me help you with the rest. Book a free 30-min discovery session and find out how I can help.


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