3 THINGS TO LET GO OVER THE HOLIDAYS

Let's get right to it - the holiday season is upon us, bringing its beautifully mixed bag of tinsel and tantrums.

I don't know about you, but I plan not just to survive, but THRIVE this season - and if you want to too, here are 3 things you need to let go of over the holidays:

1. RESENTMENT

I KNOW you know this - but every year you find yourself biting your lip, and excusing yourself to go and scream into a pillow or cry in the loo.

That's not letting go of resentment - that's tamping down gunpowder, ready to ignite and explode.

Underneath all the pent-up resentment, you love your family - even though they annoy the piss out of you. (And if you don't, what on earth are you doing spending the holidays with them?).

Remember that most family settings are the Olympics of self-development, so focus on the love - because love doesn't care if you vote the same way, or have the same values - that's not what families are for. 

They're there to love you in spite of your bullshit - it's in the contract.

So yeah, they may be sexist or boring or selfish - but you love them anyway, because you're evolved af. Doesn't that feel better?

2. THE IDEA OF 'PERFECT'

Burnt potatoes, duplicate gifts, getting covid - none of it matters, trust me.

If the last few years have taught us anything, it's that, as a species, we're unbelievably adaptable, and most of the stuff we fret about is totally unimportant.

In the end, the only person who'll remember that you forgot to buy stuffing is you.

My beloved Grandad used to simply shrug and say 'Whatever'. He'd perfected the art of non-attachment - he understood that it truly doesn't matter.

If you're focusing on the love, that's the only thing that's important. You get to decide what to keep and what to let go of. And what small stuff to not sweat.

3. TRADITION

Ok, bit controversial here - I believe you can happily let go of most of the 'critical' aspects of your traditional holiday celebration. DUN DUN DUNNNN...

I'm not anti-tradition (in fact, I'm very traditional and somewhat old-fashioned) - but I'm not a fan of rules. When things have to be a certain way, I want to poke them and say 'Why?'

To me, rules mean rigidity - and rigidity is not fun.

In fact, some folks deliberately choose to 'break the rules'  and do something different each year. Who decides what your day looks like? You!

Exhausted by the idea of a big family dinner? Don't have one! Get some frozen meals in and eat on your lap in front of the telly, if you like! (If this feels like total sacrilege, then isn't that rigid idea worth challenging?)

Try one-gift Secret Santa, instead of buying something for everyone.

Try nut roast instead of turkey (try my mum's it's amazing).

Try a hotel with a pool instead of your Auntie Vera's.

Try just you and your partner instead of the whole family.

Try volunteering at a shelter instead of sitting round the telly.

Try whatever you like - you decide!

BONUS

Let go of the bloody diet and let go of your belt buckle. It's a few days, enjoy yourself, for goodness sake.

If it's winter where you are, you're meant to insulate yourself a bit. Also, you're gorgeous and IT DOESN'T MATTER.

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And remember - IT DOESN'T MATTER.

Wishing you a very happy Christmas, Hannukah, Kwanzaa, Bodhi day, Solstice and holiday!

Big love,

P.S. If you get overwhelmed, take a minute or 3 and try THIS meditation to get calm again.

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