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"Today I will judge nothing that occurs" is a daily affirmation from A Course In Miracles. It encourages us to release the habit of judgement, and find peace of mind and acceptance. Oooh, it's a tricky one, that! We humans are judgy little things, and it's a hard habit to break. What that means is that we tend to judge everything  - events, ourselves, and others. And if we get stuck in that habit, we end up judging ourselves just as harshly - if not more so - than others. Muc

It takes a lot of courage to get on your healing path. Staying where you are is easier - even if it's not what you ultimately want. So when you start working on your issues, it can be extra bewildering to have an emotional setback. If this has happened to you, I want you to know it's not your fault - and here's why it's happening. We say 'healing isn't linear', but I don't think you really appreciate it, until you actually start doing the work. You probably feel pretty great

I was thinking recently about an extraordinary moment in a Jack Nicholson movie of the same name, where he walks into his psychiatrist's waiting room, turns to the waiting patients and says: "What if this is as good as it gets?" Their blank, stunned expressions are something I'll always remember. But WHAT a bloody good question. What if nothing gets better? What if there isn't some nebulous, happier life on its way, if only you can wait a few weeks/months/ years? What if you

One of the reasons I love living where I do is that it's very flat - you get these huge, beautiful skies and incredible sunsets. Sometimes it feels so expansive, so uplifting, so light, that I wouldn't mind if it was summer all year round. And then I realise - nope, I wouldn't actually want that. The  biggest reason I love living here is all the green. I adore the lush, overgrown wildness of it - the coolness of the forests, the jungly wildflowers, the little winding paths,

Last week, we talked about the difference between guilt and shame (you can read that post HERE ). Guilt can be useful; shame is not. This week, I want to talk about the difference between blame and responsibility. Is it possible to take responsibility - without taking the blame? Many clients are reluctant to talk about the people who've upset them in the past. They don't want to blame anyone else for their issues, so they shy away from talking about the criticism they receive

Roll up, roll up! The podcast is live! Season 2 of Rowdy and Real is now available wherever you get your podcasts! Excitinnnngggg! Listen on Spotify Listen on Apple Podcasts Watch on YouTube RSS Feed I'm kicking off Season 2 by talking about why I had to take a year away - not just from the podcast, but from my business generally. It's a bit of a vulnerable share, and - spoiler alert/content warning - I'll be talking about my cancer diagnosis. It's still full of laughs and b

I am not a domestic goddess. The opposite, in fact - I'm more of a domestic goblin. So today, when I was emptying my bin, and found...

Self-care is a funny old thing - it looks different for everyone, and depends on what your needs are in the moment. There isn't a one-size-fits-all way to care for yourself. Sometimes self-care is forcing your butt out of bed and getting out for a bit of exercise.  Sometimes it's forcing yourself back into bed, or just ensuring you've eaten today.

I'm not a fan of imperatives: 'you have to', or 'you must not ever', or 'you must always'. I'm not really talking about the laws of the land - generally speaking, I'm a law-abider (as long as you don't look at my speedometer, ahem).

The healing journey is rarely linear - more often, it's a rollercoaster of ups and downs.

I hope the sun is shining for you - but if not, that's ok - you can love yourself anyway.

There is undoubtedly some scary shiz happening in the world, you can't ignore it - and nor should you try to.

We generally learn life's lessons in two ways: the easy way and the hard way. Joy and pain. And it's true that most of the time we get to...

What comes to mind when you think about self-care?  Is it: A) Something to practice when you're frazzled and approaching a burnout...

Let me state for the record that I am BLOODY COLD. Ok, that's that dealt with. Now, down to business. Feeling good. LOLZ. Joking aside...

My clients are a never-ending source of absolute gold - they often teach me things I need to know, and it becomes a positive feedback...

Hi gorgeous. Storytime: Back in ye olden days, I lived in South London. My mum lived in North London. I was not blessed with a sense of...

I haven't been eavesdropping, and I can't read your mind - BUT - I bet I can tell you what you've been thinking about most. Look at your...

I spent a lot of years not loving myself - even now it's very much a work in progress. Like the proverbial onion, I keep pulling back...